The Unexpected Gift of Becoming a Teacher

I never set out to become a teacher. Honestly, I didn’t see it in myself. But sometimes, life nudges you toward your purpose in the most unexpected ways.

It all began in a tiny desert town—Snowflake, Arizona—where options for partner dance classes were slim to none. I was just 16 when my mom encouraged me to start a couples' country dance class. So there I was, teaching line dancing, country swing, and the two-step. I didn’t fully understand it then, but something about partner dancing—the way two people can move as one—lit a fire in me. That connection would become the heart of my teaching from that moment forward.

Even through college and into my years on the West Coast Swing Dance Circuit starting in 1999, I still didn’t quite see myself as a teacher. Students would ask me for lessons, and I’d think, Why me? But with each request, I leaned in. Not just to become a better dancer, but to learn how to be fully present with another human—to mentor, to support, and to grow alongside them.

Over the years, I’ve come to realize that teaching is so much more than sharing knowledge. It's about being willing to keep learning yourself. It’s about seeing every student as unique—each with their own story, their own rhythm, their own reason for showing up. And in doing so, I’ve been gifted some of the most beautiful lessons.

Each student is a gift in my life. Truly.They’ve taught me patience, curiosity, vulnerability, and grace.

When I step into a lesson now, I release any attachment to perfection and instead choose presence. I remind myself: I’m not just teaching dance—I’m offering tools that ripple far beyond the studio. Confidence. Connection. Trust.

And the truth is—we are all teachers. Whether we’re leading a class, raising children, showing up for a friend, or just living our truth—every interaction is a chance to uplift, inspire, and impact. We teach through our energy, our choices, and our example.

So let’s step into that role with compassion and humility. Let’s remember that every day offers us the opportunity to both teach and be taught.

Next week, I’ll be sharing a story about my very first student—the one who changed me and shaped how I show up for all my students today.

I hope you’ll come back for that.Because the dance of life is always better when we move together. 💛

Live in Love. Move with Meaning. Play Passionately.

Shalay

Teaching West Coast Swing